*Words have power. But you already know this, right? But words come from thoughts, and thoughts are shaped by perception and perception comes from two things: personal experiences and what information we are fed. The information we are fed often comes from what we seek out; and ultimately, what we choose to believe.
This is more than just a lesson down the memory lane of dichotomy. There is an actual point to it. Why do we, as black people say (or think), “Is it because I’m black?” or affirm, “It’s because I’m black, right?”
Any and every “bad thing” that happens to us, when we are dealing with a person of Caucasian or any other descent, brings that “because I’m black” thing out.
The mere assertion suggests there is something “wrong” with being black.
Personally, I have always detested that stance. I guess that’s why I never took it. Not that I ignore feelings that I receive as racist being anything but that, it may be a natural arrogance on my part. I don’t know, I just always thought of it more as the way I presented to you:
Not “because I am” but “because you are.”
If it is arrogance I fully embrace it in this instance and consider it a gift. Because I don’t want to harbor ANY feelings (hidden or out loud) of being less than…especially since being black is something I can’t change. Nor want to.
But I do cringe whenever I hear my people saying this. In ALL of its forms. It’s subliminal…any negative comments, including those posted oftentimes on the EURThisNthat and EURweb reader boards, speak to this “because I’m black” mindset – whenever someone says something dramatic, negative, or even what others may consider “wrong” – not far behind will be comments in some of those “other forms.” The “we never support,” or “because we’re black,” or whatever. I notice “Is it because I’m black” or “It’s because I’m black right?” never follows anything of a positive nature.
Why is that? Continue reading