Category Archives: Perspective

Show the White People in Your Life what Institutionalized Racism ‘Looks Like’


*Some of my friends and family must get so frustrated with me. I think I naturally tend to see the good in people — whether that’s deserving or not. Oh I’m no pollyanna, trust. I have my moods just like you. But I have a tendency to go there first. And if I can be completely “transparent” for a moment, I believe they truly recognize this in me when it comes to talks about race.

I know racism is rampant. Even now I am working on an article detailing my own upbringing in the racist south, and how, in spite of it, as one of my idols, Dr. Maya Angelou, once wrote: and still I rise. Yet, and I don’t know if this comes from my background in education, or the fact that I have lived in such diverse communities and have even done a bit of international travel, I recognize a nag within me that says, maybe they just don’t know what it looks like.

Oh I know ‘they’ should…and oftentimes do. Hey, my honest feeling is that I should be wealthy, but dammit, I’m still far from it!

And therein lies the aforementioned frustration that I sometimes feel fester inside the people in my life. Continue reading

Perspective: I Talked with a Dallas Police Officer and a Young Brotha Who Wants to be a Cop…This is What They Said


*I drive for Uber. It gives me a great opportunity to meet a diverse group of people and because I have no problem at all conversing with ANYONE, I get to have incredible conversations with them. Last night two awesome people got into my car: a female police officer and a young man, 18, who aims to become a cop. Of course, I didn’t know the woman’s occupation at first, it’s not like she was in uniform. But these are the kinds of things you learn about people after you begin talking. As it turns out, she was in Dallas when all sh*t broke loose.

The first thought that came to my mind when I learned what she does was, “Whew! I am SO glad I didn’t say anything negative about the police!”

And did I mention she is white?

She told me she doesn’t work for the DPD, but for a private agency. We talked back and forth. I told her what I do and we both shared why we chose the careers we chose and how each of us really came into our chosen paths to make a difference.

She was the nicest person. And it really reiterated in my mind the importance of never forgetting that there are actual individuals behind these groups of people and that to judge the entire group, based on the actions of one person, is just plain wrong.

I made sure to say this to her in reference to the Dallas incident, where the actions of ONE LONE GUNMAN named Micah Johnson should NOT be aligned with the ideology behind the entire Black Lives Matter movement.

Micah Johnson
Micah Johnson

I noticed she was hesitant to agree. Continue reading

Homeless Woman and Millionaire Brought Together By a (Wait for it) Dog

Lasharn Francis Harvey, Sahara ,and Steve Witkoff
Lasharn Francis Harvey, Sahara ,and Steve Witkoff

*Change is said to happen once timing meets opportunity. I’d like to add that this opportunity must be recognized. All kinds of opportunities lay in our midst, but they are often missed because we don’t see them. We don’t “recognize”  them because they don’t always look like what we expect. For example, a business person is generally looking for business opportunities; or “prospecting” with a mindset of how someone might be useful to them in the future.

No telling how long Lasharn Francis Harvey, a homeless woman, and her beautiful golden retriever-poodle mix, Sahara, had been calling the outside of wealthy developer Steve Witkoff’s office building home. But her sleeping bag had become a standard part of the exterior and each morning the businessman would hear Harvey’s hearty “have a blessed day!” as he entered the building.

Think about it: This is a sight many see regularly in any big city. A homeless person or persons crouched outside of an office building; where people of every status come and go everyday. Generally, people will place a few coins or even a bill into a cup and keep moving. This is not a judgement. People are busy.

But these can also be seen as missed opportunities to alter someone’s life.

Everyone has a story.

But you are only going to tap into it if something in your life inspires you to dig deeper.

This was the case with Steve Witkoff. As busy as he is, he is a father who still grieved the death of Andrew, his 22-year-old son who passed five years earlier from an Oxycontin overdose.

And although Witkoff led a blessed existence, where his millions of square footage offices and condos in New York, Miami and London served him well, he knew that no amount of wealth will ease the pain of a parent who has buried his child.

This fact was Witkoff’s “something.” 

And it was this that most likely made him notice Harvey and dig deeper.

An opportunity that was recognized and had met its time. Continue reading

Swollen Head Pit-bull Defies Animal Cruelty Odds, Watch Angry Elephant Charge at Arnold Schwarzenegger

Swollen pitbull

*Some cruel asshole decided to tighten a 6-pound chain around the neck of a one year old pit bull named Roxanne, and set her loose. The poor thing was found wandering the streets, her head swollen to the size of a watermelon from dragging the heavy chain.

The chain is reported to have  made up more than 10 percent of the pooch’s body weight.

Rescuers were doubtful if the dog would even survive, but she was taken to a vet who cut the chain with heavy bolt cutters and was then immediately rushed into surgery.

swollen dog 2

But where there is a will, there is a way. And this little doggie had nothing BUT will! She not only survived the terrible and cruel ordeal, she survived BIG time.

Just look at the joy and gratitude in her eyes!

Pitbull after surgery

And if the cruel son-of-a-gun reads this, once you get to hell, I hope you rot there!


Watch: Angry Elephant Charges at Former California Governor, Arnold Schwarzenegger

This bad-ass elephant could give a damn about the man who played the role of Terminator. During an African safari, the former Governor rode around in a jeep to get a look-see in the large mammal’s territory and came up on one who was obviously not in the mood to be gawked at.

He came at the jeep with a fierceness!

The former politician and actor, who seemingly didn’t even break a sweat, laughed and said on Instagram, “I couldn’t have written this safari encounter better if it was a movie!”

Our Hearts Bleed, But Can’t Deny Media, Public Much More Lenient of Family in Alligator Death, Than Gorilla Incident

Melissa Graves and her son, Matt.
Melissa Graves and her son, Matt.

*Hell! I guess this makes me “devil’s advocate,” but I doubt the offer to speak on this landed in my lap accidentally. I speak for many when I say sincerely that our hearts continue to ache over the senseless death of little Lane Graves, 2, who drowned as a result of being attacked by an alligator as he sat playing in his playpen near the water at Disney’s Seven Seas Lagoon in Orlando. His precious little life had merely begun before it was snatched away and our world is all the worse for it.

After all, many of us are still having overactive heart palpitations over the near-death experience of little Isaiah Dickerson, 3, who, only last month, fell into the pit where a gorilla named “Harambe” lived at the Cincinnati Zoo.

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Isaiah and his dad, Deonne Dickerson.

Onlookers watched in horror as the beast at one point seemed to be undecided about what to do with the little “one of them” who appeared in pictures in the initial stages of the drama to look up at his hugeness, with his little hands touching the beasts arms, before it took the kid and dragged him through the water like a rag-doll.

The public was outraged when ultimately, the beast had to be killed to spare the life of the child.

But before we go forward, let me say this. Final results notwithstanding, the “pink elephant in the room” shows the only differences between these two precious human lives was race. The bigger difference was reactions from the media and an angry public. Continue reading

Prince William to Appear on Cover of LGBT Magazine, Speaks Out Against Bullying

*Long live the Queen!

It’s a refrain that’s been used — and heard — for generations in the UK, and Queen Elizabeth II is one of history’s most beloved world leaders.  But today, I’m wondering when the old girl, 90, might kick the bucket — or at least abdicate her throne.  Maybe just live out the rest of her days as a great-grandma.

I’m kidding.  Kinda.

I certainly don’t wish Queen Elizabeth II any ill will, but her grandson, the Duke of Cambridge, has an agenda that I like a whole lot.

Prince William will appear on the cover of the July issue of the UK’s Attitude, which bills itself as “the UK’s best-selling gay magazine.” Typically, the mag features athletes, models and other stars on its cover.

But after the future king invited the mag to “bring members of the LGBT community to Kensington Palace to listen to their experience on bullying,” he posed for the cover shot. Continue reading

For The Ladies? Meet LICKI, a Silicone Brush For Your Pussy (Cat)


*I always marvel at the inventiveness of the human mind. Just think about all of the incredible inventions we’ve come up with.

The wheel.

And then, employing two of them, the bicycle! Then, with four, the automobile!

The human mind has devised a way to fly!  To send images across the world and display those images on a flat screen that can hang on your wall!

The telephone! The mobile phone! The microwave!

But listen up, my darlings, NOTHING that we’ve invented over the centuries can trump LICKI, a giant silicone tongue you can use to lick your pu**y.

As Missy Elliot said on @JanetJackson’s 2015 album, “kitty cat meow meow meow meow MEOW!”

Janet Jackson with longtime beau Jermaine Dupri

Ladies, don’t get TOO excited. I’m talking “pussy” as in a REAL, FELINE cat. Continue reading

Our Chat With Sen. Bernie Sanders — He Wants Your Vote!



*As the next round of Democratic primaries approach, Sen. Bernie Sanders isn’t taking the African American vote for granted.

En route to his event in Davis, California late last week, Sanders made time to talk by phone with a group of African American journalists from across the state of California. And he didn’t pull any punches when I asked him why the black community in California should support him — and not Hillary Clinton — on June 7th.

“If these were normal times,” Sanders told me, “then I think we’d be OK to say ‘let’s support somebody who’s an establishment candidate. Let’s support establishment economics. No disrespect to Hillary Clinton, who I’ve known for 25 years, but she is an establishment politician, and I think we all know that.”

“I think given the incredible level of wealth disparities and income inequality, given the corrupt campaign finance system that is allowing billionaires to buy elections, given the fact that we have the highest rate of childhood poverty of any major country on earth — and it is much worse in the African American community — I think it is time for real change, ” Sanders charged.  “And I think the American people throughout this country are catching on that the establishment is not working for them.”

Sanders got more animated as he answered my question.  From his change in tone, it seemed my question had riled him, so I just sat back and experienced — FELT — the Bern. Continue reading