*Here it is. The time when we make promises we know we won’t keep. Say things we know we don’t mean. And do things we know are not good for us.
Last year many of us said things like, “I am not going to allow any unnecessary drama into my life.” We vowed to “go to the gym at least twice a week and eat healthier foods.” We said we would “stop judging others,” and stop “sweating the small stuff.” But in spite of all those promises we made to ourselves, here we are.
With little to show for it.
But here’s the thing. There is still a light at the end of the tunnel. And we are one year smarter. We’ve been here before, but this time, if we choose to ignore our own truth and repeat the mistakes of the past, we have no one to blame for it.
You see the bottom line is, and always has been: when we are truly ready for things in our lives to change, NOTHING can stand in our way.
A good way to begin the paradigm shift in our own lives is to recall some of our past successes (not failures). And don’t think of someone else’s description of what “success” is…only yours. Remember when things turned out right? Don’t downplay the part you played in that; the contribution you made to the successful outcome. You gave up something: Time, energy, money, advice, guidance. You may have stood your ground on a controversial issue; checked your ego at the door for the sake of the bigger picture; humbled yourself…sincerely.
Truth is, we get caught up sometimes, and that is what leads us astray. Instead of taking things one day at a time, we lose momentum and tire ourselves out by thinking about “how long” it may take to “get there.” Instead of being realistic in our goals (not to be confused with staying inside your comfort zone), we set ourselves up for failure because we don’t think things through based on our resources.
Sure, we have all had plenty of examples to show us what we DON’T want. The kind of people we DON’T want to be. The kind of lives we DON’T want to live. And focusing on those things, well, how’s that working out for you?
You deserve better. What is your vision for the life you want? Close your eyes and picture it. Then get busy designing it.
Create your own VISION BOARD. Don’t listen to the negative self-talk – the voices in your head that tells you this is a stupid waste of time. It’s not. It is your visual map to where you want to be. And by seeing it each day, when you awaken, before you drift off to sleep, and all the moments in between; you keep your eye on the prize. Even when life distracts you, you go to your vision board, and get back on track.
Now of course you have to do the work. This is no “magic trick.” But neither is anything worth having…and keeping.
Many of us have created vision boards before. But if you have not, its pretty simple.
- Go to your favorite arts & craft store (or Dollar Store) and get a large, sturdy, poster board, scissors, glue stick, and any accessories you may want to use to spice up the picture. It could be stickers of stars, balloons, etc.
- Do you have any old magazines? Look through them. They may have photos that you can cut out. For example: Say one of your goals is to change your body shape. Find a picture of someone in the magazine, cut it out and use the body with a picture of your face on it.
- Next, say you want a new or newer car. Look for a picture of the car you want, cut it out and paste it on your vision board.
- Want to go back to school? Get a degree? Find a photo of the school on their website. Put it up there (you can even go so far as to put the date you want to start).
Do the same with each item you want. Be it something material or something intangible. And because this is an ongoing process, don’t feel you have to do it all at once. Let your desires resonate within you so that you can flush out the fleeting and be left with the substance.
Treat the building of this board with the utmost respect. You are not just throwing any old thing up on it. You are carefully and deliberately constructing the future you aim to have.
Some things you may also want to keep in mind as you move into the new year.
Never underestimate the power of helping someone else: I find my own problems get lighter when I am helping a friend sort through theirs. I don’t know. This is magic. Things that once weighed so heavily on my mind, suddenly becomes clearer as a result of the energy I put into helping another person become happy. With no expectations for doing so.
Utilize your powers of discernment. As we all know, sh*t happens. To everybody. This wouldn’t be life if it didn’t. Don’t use this as an excuse to go off course. To be “discerning” means putting things into perspective. One wrong move doesn’t mean STOP EVERYTHING. Sometimes we just have to be flexible and change course.
We can’t group everything in one ball and throw it. As human beings with a myriad of behaviors within our functionality, we do things, say things, feel things. Not necessarily because we are rich or poor; black, white or other; healthy or sick; religious, atheist or spiritual; educated or not.
But because we are human, and we just arrive at different places…at different times…based on our own journey.
It’s important to know the difference.
This is not debatable.
It’s a new year. And with it, a new opportunity to change the course of our lives. Build the Vision Board and stay the course. How can you lose?
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