*For the life of me, sometimes I don’t know where people get off, being so blatantly judgmental. A Chicago community is devastated after learning about the death of 9-year-old Tyshawn Lee, who was lured into an alley and executed on November 2. And while we are a society of people with strong opinions, its always alarming when you have an absolute stranger going online, and blatantly placing blame; this time, on the child’s grieving mother, by posting a series of pictures of her (see below) and posing the question to his social media friends: “Does she look like a mother?”
WTF? Who does that?
Some dude out of L.A. named Tim Alexander does.
While I sit here and contemplate exactly what a mother is supposed to “look like”…please continue reading.
If you have yet to see this guy he won’t be hard to find. I wondered what such a judgmental person actually looks like and discovered he’s got a Youtube video with his dad and two little boys, cute as heck, talking about how wonderful the men in his family is.
Good for you! And that is a real blessing that not every family is fortunate to have.
But Alexander, 53, and his harsh words are definitely a standout from the hordes of people sending their condolences to Karla Lee on just about every social media platform.
The filmmaker decided to put together the collage of photos of Karla Lee below on his Facebook account.
Along with a caption that reads:
“This beautiful 9 year old child Tyshawn Lee who was just gunned down in Chicago has a mother, she is calling herself Badassmistress. Here is her photo – with and without A GUN. Sad his mother lives at the level she does, she forced him to live her level as well by proximity. Now he is DEAD. Does she LOOK like the best mother a child can have? Don’t be judgmental now. MOTHERING is BETTER than MISTERESSING!”
Needless to say, people were livid!
Though there were 2,770 likes and 2,512 shares many of the 4,878 comments were against the filmmaker.
According to a report by iDATEDAILY.COM Courtney S. Washington posted the following comment on the page: “@Tim Alexander, you are part of society’s problem…. Focus on the actual problem… The loss of a life… Whether she was a stripper, a doctor, a mistress, or a teacher… She is a MOTHER who lost her child to unnecessary gun violence… You cannot judge one’s life based on the social media display…. You failed Sir!!”
And Alexander himself shared a comment posted by someone (directly below) who disagreed with his stance, followed by HIS response to the post.
“This poor little boy didn’t have a chance. Both parents gang affiliated and this was the result. . But it’s not her fault though get the Fuck Outta Here!”
To that I say…..(Alexander)
No, the bullet is not DIRECTLY HER FAULT, but… Lay with a thug and you have a child with a dark future, and SHE made a choice to have a killer’s baby. My mother chose to marry a true man of God and then have her 3 children. Nobody went out to kill my mother’s children, she didn’t roll with people who would put her in that position, and, she didn’t need to pose with guns to show how bad she was. She CHOSE different for her life and ours her children. Her children were SAFER than the children of women who CHOSE to love thugs. Every woman makes a choice when she says YES to each and every penis she accepts into her vagina. Who is the penis attached too a GOOD MAN to be your baby’s father or a BAD ONE, that is to $8 million question, and how will life be trying to raise bad boy’s child? To many find out the hard way. Her son is dead because of who SHE CHOSE to have her child with out of the 18.5 million black penis’ in America. That IS a responsibility. I hope somebody hears me. Please God, open ears, hearts and minds to how serious a woman choices are in a man to her children’s lives and futures. Women must PICK, CHOOSE AND SELECT BETTER DADS FOR THEIR CHILDREN – she sure back bad trying to roll with the thug life. That is a RESPONSIBILITY to find a RESPONSIBLE MAN to have your children with, feel me now!
Not once did he mention or point blame towards the father who knows the kill was made because of his gang affiliation. Only to the mother of the child he had the baby with.
Interesting, he didn’t add this photo to the collage:
Wonder what kind of films he makes.
And you know, the crazy thing about people talking out the side of their neck like this, so-to-speak — especially the part about him bragging about his mother marrying a man of God; and how nobody is out there trying to kill her children.
Their life is not over yet, right?
And I pray it won’t end like this, but if something were to happen to a member of his family — something of a similar nature — he’ll get no sympathy from nobody.
Words matter. Use yours wisely.