*When Izabel Laxamana was 12-years-old, she shared a post on social media that talked about how she got through the rough times at school. Yes, we often forget that kids barely hitting puberty face issues that to them, appear insurmountable. As adults, we may downplay the significance of what would embarrass a child; after all, we’ve had our moments and as the saying goes, they didn’t kill us.
But one father now realizes this is not always the outcome. And he has got to be feeling the worst pain right now.
His 13-year-old daughter Izabel, committed suicide last week and how could he not feel it is because of something he did.
The Tacoma, Washington girl who had just reached her teen years, got out of a car on May 29 and jumped off a highway overpass only days after a video was uploaded by her father; showing him punishing her for “getting messed up” by cutting her hair off on YouTube.
To no one’s surprise, Laxamana’s friends and family members wonder if the video contributed to her killing herself.
News Tribune reports that after Laxamana jumped off a bridge onto Interstate 5, she was taken to Seattle hospital and died there the next day.
Now a GoFundMe page has been set up by family and friends, to raise money for funeral costs.
The original video, filmed by Izabel’s father, has been removed. But not before one of her friends copied it onto her cellphone and shared it.
On the tape you can hear a man, presumably her father, saying:
“The consequences of getting messed up…Man, you lost all that beautiful hair. Was it worth it?”
She responds meekly: “No.”
How many times did I warn you?
Some people on social media feel Laxamana’s father should be criminally prosecuted or publicly shamed himself.
But as I alluded to earlier in this article, I’ve got a feeling he is living in his own private hell right now.
“I feel hated most of the time im in school i feel looked down on and i get judged alot…. But what keeps me going is people like kian who have gone through the same thing as me… In a school with so many people its weird to say “i feel alone” but the truth is that you really do feel alone. So thanks for everything kian…. “
I know it is easy for emotions to get stirred up when we see our children doing things we don’t agree with. Whether its a mother beating her child in public for being someplace he wasn’t supposed to be, or a parent forcing a child who lied about her age on social media to “come clean,” this right here is a good example of why public shaming is NOT a good idea. Not for an adult. And certainly not for a child.
Look at the potential consequences. It’s just not worth it.
Watch the video that may have contributed to this tragedy, directly below.
Rest in sweet peace, Izabel. Our prayers are with your friends and family.