*I sure hope you won’t judge me too harshly here. But wouldn’t you be even slightly interested in knowing exactly who would show up at your final farewell? What better way to know than to have it before you’re gone. Don’t you wonder if nosey ass “Brenda” who never did like you anyway would all of a sudden get a rush of sorrow and come? Or what about Miranda? She’d probably be the first one screaming and hollerin’ with her phony ass. Then there’s your ex, Billy – who would probably have the nerve to show up with his new woman because she’s probably as insecure as he is; and she wants to see that you’re dead with her own eyes.
That’s why you probably shouldn’t throw your nose up at the idea of planning your party now. While you can be here to appreciate it, and it can be done on your own terms.
Like Karil Harrington did.
Harrington, a nurse, may be on to something. She staged one helluva party for herself called, “Rave Before the Grave.” And I hear they partied hard. No tears were allowed. And, although the attendees knew their loved one would soon be gone, they were glad she was there with them to hear them say goodbye.
The first thing Harrington, 65, did after she learned she had an inoperable cancer, and was given less than six months to live, was start planning her pre-funeral wake.
More than 400 family and friends turned up for the celebration, and Harrington ended up being the one to give them inspiration.
“Looking around the room fills me with the most overwhelming feeling of comfort.
“I am so grateful for this opportunity to thank you all for everything you have done for me.
“This could well be the last time some of you see me, but know this – life is short, you’ve got to make the most of it.
“Life is for living, every last minute.”
Harrington,told anyone who even looked like they would cry to “Take those tears somewhere else.” She reminded them that life is short and said, “I’m not going to sit around moping – life is short and now mine is even shorter.
“I’m the luckiest woman on earth – to see my kids grow up and have kids of their own is a dream come true.”
The family decorated a local social club with balloons and streamers for her farewell funeral party. And Aretha Franklin, Harrington’s favorite, was on the speaker singing R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
Her daughter Llynwen, 36, said: “She liked the idea of a party, with lots of laughter, dancing and memories.
“But she told us all: “Why should I miss out on the fun? It doesn’t seem fair after I’ve planned most of it!
“She wanted to see all her loved ones in the same room before she passed away.”
Read more at The Mirror