You don’t have to “put out” unless you feel like it. Of course you’d have to have a friend…with benefits…for this 🙂
And you get to do what you want, when you want, with whomever you want!
Oh yes, as Ree, “The (Ree)lationship Guide” points out: Being single allows you a great opportunity to fall in love with yourself.
And then there are those people who have spent more years of their life loving and taking care of others, so when they’re finally able to be alone, they immerse themselves in “single-hood” and get caught up on all of the years they’ve missed loving and taking care of themselves.
But for those of you who have recently gotten out of a relationship and don’t want to be lonely while you’re alone, here are three ways to prevent loneliness:
Pick up a hobby. Now that you’re alone, this is a great opportunity to create a new hobby and/or indulge in an abandoned one. For example, remember how much you use to love swimming? Now that you’re single, treat yourself to a one night stay at a luxurious hotel that has an indoor swimming pool. It’s best to select a week day so that you don’t have to share the pool with too many other people. In addition to that, your rate at the hotel will be less expensive.
- Reconnect with friends and family. Now that you’re single, you can call all of those friends and family members that you blew off after you committed yourself to a relationship. Be sure to offer your apologies for the time away and be a listening ear to them. They probably have quite a bit of information to share with you since you disappeared on them. Although you may want to get a lot off of your chest, allow them to decompress first. While you’re reconnecting with loved ones, be sure to not use this an opportunity to reconnect with former love interests. Remember, this is your time to enjoy being single. Unless circumstances beyond your control have brought you and a love interest together, you should avoid seeking a relationship during this rebuilding time.
But wait! There’s one more tip on that “To Do” list that will not only cure your potential loneliness, but give your life true purpose.
See what Ree, “The (Ree)lationship Guide” suggests for tip #3 here.