*While we ladies love to accommodate our men – you know, make sure he’s comfortable; his needs are met, his friends feel comfortable around us……….wait! Screeching brakes here.
A relationship expert says we’ve got to be careful about that last one.
Now I can hear you saying, “Well of course, we know how to remain appropriate.”
But no, that’s not it. It goes much deeper. And its something many women innocently do all the time.
Case in point: Our guy decides to bring “Charlie” home after work. We want Charlie to know that our guy is in a great relationship; with a really cool wife who loves him more than anything. And we want our guy to remember this too. So at the onset we innocently invite Charlie to stay for dinner. We all have a nice evening and everything is cool. Charlie goes home and our man doesn’t even mention his name for days. Then Charlie calls looking for our man one day. We greet him warmly with, “Hey Charlie, how have you been?” he responds, we have a short, gracious chat before we inform him that our guy will be home soon. Conversation over.
Still cool. No harm, no foul.
But with each future greeting the comfort level gets stronger, even though the behavior is still appropriate.
And this is where it can get complicated. We’ve become “friends” — especially in our man’s eyes.
As reported by Ree, the Relationship Guide, from an iDateDaily.com article, this burgeoning “friendship” is referred to as “Partner Betweeness,” and research conducted by sociologists Benjamin Cornwell of Cornell University and Edward Laumann of the University of Chicago says that a woman’s friendship with her man’s friend causes men to feel less masculine and that this can result in erectile dysfunction.
Yep, you heard ’em.
You know how sensitive men can be when they feel their masculinity may be threatened. And of course they don’t say a word so we are left wondering, “what happened?”
Sorry guys, I say this with love.
“Men who experience partner betweenness in their joint relationships are more likely to have trouble getting or maintaining an εrection and are also more likely to experience difficulty achieving οrgasm during sεx,” the sociologists write.
Now ladies, we wouldn’t want that now, would we? Take heed.
As you were.