There’s a book by J. California Cooper called “Family”. In her book, she discusses how the people of America are all one big family because of the mixing and mingling of slave owners with those they had enslaved. But as time went on in America, there are many more stories of intermingling in families, but one of the worse would have to be having a relationship with a parent that you didn’t know was your parent.
Valerie Spruill, 60, of Akron, Ohio, knows too well how this can happen. She had been married to a man by the name of Percy Spruill, who had later been identified as her father. Percy Spruill died in 1998, at the age of 60, but Valerie didn’t find out until 2004, that he was her father, according to the Akron Beacon Journal. Valerie’s uncle revealed the information to her, but for some strange reason kept it from her while they were married? Yikes! That would seem unforgivable, but she is trying to pick up the pieces through forgiveness.
She now believes that the man she was married to had an idea that she might be his daughter, but didn’t reveal the “taboo” element of their relationship because he was scared. Valerie has three children, but they are from a previous relationship. Thank goodness! Now this is one of those stories that Tyler Perry discusses in the themes of a couple of his films. He always talks about how the family secrets come back to haunt us and that reminds me of a phrase that the elders always say, “What’s done in the dark always comes to the light.”
Because all of this mayhem and disorder in this woman’s life could’ve been avoided with a serious history lesson on who her real parents were. She was raised by her grandparents and they didn’t tell her until she was nine-years-old that her grandpa was not her daddy, but her grandpa and a “family friend” that would drop by from time to time was her mother. Her mother died in 1984 and was:
“…also one of three “night ladies,” as she terms it, who testified in the infamous 1980 corruption trial of Summit County Probate Judge James Barbutoa.”
Now that all the information has been revealed, she is now using her story to find her siblings and help others:
“I want this to be more of an inspirational story,” she says. “If I’ve come through this, anyone can come through anything through the help of the Lord.”
Spruill also is motivated to tell her tale in the hope she can locate additional siblings she didn’t know existed.
“My biggest goal is to find them and let ’em know that [their mother] loved them, no matter what. And [to tell them], ‘Thank God she gave you away like she did me, so you could have a beautiful life.’
“It’s not a shame to be given away. Most of the time it’s a blessing.”
What a story! She probably will help someone. Read more here.